It’s Sunday morning and the anxiety is building. I know I’ve procrastinated all my schoolwork and today will be my last chance to get the work done and turned in for credit. My instinct is to avoid my responsibilities even longer than I already have. But the truth is the anxiety won’t truly subside until I complete the tasks. It feels like entering hell sometimes (I can be dramatic. I know.) and the only way out of hell is through it.
To me this is the definition of handling your business; not stopping and collapsing in your agony, but going through it.
This is a simple habit that I have to constantly remind myself to do. I have been happy with the results though. It ultimately saves me a lot of stress and is liberating because, as I stated previously, the anxiety of unfinished business never really leaves, so why let it dwell in my essence, take care of it.
On a side note, also realize that handling your business includes making adjustments to your responsibilities. If you’re constantly agonizing over the things you need to do, then handle your business in the sense of seeing what your other options may be. Maybe the industry you are working in or the degree you are pursuing doesn’t align with your innate gifts and interests. Your mental health is important. Have compassion for yourself if you find it difficult to stay motivated. Look for solutions; don’t berate yourself ever. Realize you will learn more about yourself over time and you’ll look back and understand why you weren’t able to stay focused in this or that environment.
Handling your business tips to try:
- Make a list – making a list can actually make you feel better. I’ve found that often I’ve made a few tasks seem like dozens when just keeping them in my head.
- Clear your schedule – put off self imposed tasks/activities so that you can focus on what is most important to your life and goals
- Break a task into smaller and smaller steps as needed – depending on how much you dread the task, consider breaking the task into tolerable blocks of time. I’ve completed tasks that I previously failed at many times by accepting that I could only tolerate ten-minute blocks of working on the task at a time.
- See the forest through the trees – remind yourself why you’re doing this. Step back and see the big picture and realize that all our work, small or large, is creating our future.
Ultimately, whenever possible, I hope we handle our business instead of dwelling in our stress and anxiety.